Are you someone who went through a breakup a while ago and still hasn’t found someone good for you or your existing partner doesn’t fit for you? I know how you’re feeling and that’s totally fine because I’ve gone through it too. This article will help you to solve all your question regarding getting back to your ex. You’ll decide whether ‘Should I get back with my ex’ or not. Just read the blog carefully and ask those questions yourself.
Should I get back with my ex?
Let’s Find Out!
- Are you sure about this or It’s just your feelings?
Did you just go through a breakup, or you just start a new relationship? Let’s address both situations one by one.
If you just went through the breakup and still trying to recover from it, please give it some time to recover. You two broke up for a reason that couldn’t solve, and everything happens for a specific reason. I know it’s hard but the feeling that you need her/him back is not what you actually want. That’s because you’re still trying to heal but the memories are stronger. So, think twice and ask the same question yourself “Are you sure? Or are you heartbroken?”
If you just started a new relationship and you’re getting flashbacks of your ex, that’s a whole different story. Usually this happens because you’re trying compare your partner with you ex and that’s not a good thing for your relationship. People doesn’t like to get compared by other people. Talk more often and try to figure out what’s lacking in your new relationship. DO NOT TRY TO FIND YOUR EX IN YOUR NEW PARTNER.
- Why Didn’t it Work Out the First Time?
You two broke up for a reason and you have to figure out whether it is solvable or not. If you are still talking with you ex, best thing is to talk with her and discuss why it did not work at the first time.
This depends on the reason you broke up. It can be because of your partner cheated on you or because you two realized that your feelings are un-matched. If it was a cheating reason, it is so hard to get back with her/him and build the trust that you lost. Some people say “Once a Cheater, always a Cheater” but that depends on the reason she/he cheated. If the reason to breakup was the un-matching feelings, that can be always solve by talking to each other. Relationships are always about talking and solving issues because no human-being is perfect and no one matches each other.
- Does He/She Deserves a Second Chance?
In other words,
Is it worth getting back with an ex?
Let’s be real right now. If she/he doesn’t deserve it, you should forget about getting back together. If she cheated on you hard and coming back because of your success, she’s not for you. I know you’re going through a heartbreak but getting back together is not going to help you and will hurt you again. Remember, “Once a Cheater, always a Cheater”.
If she deserves for a second chance, make sure to know is she’s willing to forget everything and listen to you. One of you should lead the relationship till it get back to normal and normally it should be the guy. Women should agree to listen and then react to him. If she deserves it, why not give a second chance?
- Do you accept each other and recognize your mistakes?
If you want to get back together, first off all you two should accept each other and you two should recognize your mistakes at the first time. Most importantly both of you should admit those mistakes and live with it.
Best way to do this is to meet each other and talk face to face and list down the issues you guys had in the past. After that you two can talk and solve one by one or clear the misunderstanding happened. If she or he is not ready to admit their mistakes and still trying to prove the point, this is not going to work this time as well. One person cannot run a relationship. It should be both of your or none.
- Are you ready for this new beginning?
This is the last thing you should ask yourself before starting all over again. Are you ready to get back with your ex?
Stop thinking about this as a getting back together and start to think about it as a new beginning to your life.
- You should have some extra time to spent with your partner
- You should always check out your partner many times a day
- Try to hangout whenever you guys can
- Flirt more often and start being together as you were in the first place
- Build memories and talk about those lovely moments you two had
Every relationship needs those stuff at the beginning of it. So make sure that you’re ready to get back together or it will fall apart again.
How long should you wait to get back with your ex?
You should wait until you recover 100% from the breakup because if not, you’re going to follow your feelings and not your brain which is not good for you. That’s a normal thing when you’re heartbroken so, don’t get upset with that.
Do exes usually get back together?
Hell yeah! I got back together with my ex and now living a wonderful life with two kids and that’s why I’m writing this article for you. We wanted to help someone whose stuck in between two choices. We know how hard it is but trust me you can go through it. I have seen lots of my friends have gone through the same shit and now they’re living a beautiful life. Remember, this depends on the reason you broke up at the first time.
What are good reasons to get back with an ex
- Getting back with someone who already knows you are a huge advantage when living together
- You don’t have to start everything all over again
- Not going to waste your time with initial flirting and other stuff
- Your partner knows your responsibilities and you don’t have to explain them again
I asked these questions before i get back with my ex few years ago. Now it’s your time to ask them by yourself and solve all your problems. Feel free to follow us on Facebook for more posts on Dating and Marriage Tips.